Life

LIFE

Life is a state of living between birth and death and marriage is a sanctity; holiness of life and character. It’s a one-time show. Stage is already set. Play a good character so people remember you here and rewards await you hereafter.

Life starts long time before your see it – in the shape of a very small male sex cell (a seed) which fertilizes a women’s ova (egg) to make a baby. Going through a process of life start taking shapes, then a baby full of father and mother’s love show up in our new world.

In our daily life we see fruits, vegetables, plants and flowers are seeded in the soil. They take time to fertilize and then we see their growth pointing out of soil slowly, until they stand up strong to bear its produce.

Animals, birds, mammals, insects and underground, under water, wherever they are, they go through same natural process to come to life.

Here, i will be expressing my own feelings about human life. The Creater has numerous creature, He could send us in the lap of some one else. I am thankful to Him having blessed us with a very beautiful life.

We should therefore be thankful to:

God – the Power – the Creator – who chose our body and soul to live in human life in the world. We should obey Him, follow His instructions and Messages sent through His Messengers. Always seek His guidance in ALL matters and ask for forgiveness for wrongdoings; sooner the better and without shame; again and again; He listens and grants.

Our father and mother who infused in us their love and affection and stayed with us through thick and thin from lap to adulthood. They fed us, help us crawl, walk, talk; put us in school; tried to educate us so are able to spend a social life and be able to give them their grand children they start waiting from the day they marry their children. They preplan lot of celebration. You will observe their longing desire for your kids. They will give them love more than you. You are noble you will teach them how to become noble and respectable.

Life is fanciful, charming and respectful but not a bed of roses.
We are ignorant how our parents grew up and how they struggled to live a life. By our adulthood we have gone through some odds and evens that passed through. Somewhere we struggled ourselves and some time our parents and friends helped us. There are odds in the complex and diverse society that you have to tackle wisely. Your determination will strengthen you to overcome those. As we become more and more social and move around in the society, get education, we find world an endless source of beauty and joy.

Arranged Married life and society life:
It needs two to claps; two wings to fly; two wheels of a cart.
Sooner or later you have to marry so you have a place in society. Bachelors are not welcome in families get together; birthday or marriage parties. The most honorable kind of marriage is arranged marriage between two families in relation; or otherwise but both parents get their children in this sacred bond. God forbid, if there are some differences between the couple; parents can sit and sort out. There will lot of cousins on both sides to see the couple happy.

Dating ----destined ---- to a failed marriage:
If things go out of gear and there is likeliness between two odds; one sided or otherwise; it is almost difficult to judge each other for a life long partnership. Face is said to be index of mind but how about controlled facial outlook. The person who often frequently changes dates and venues and looks on sides haphazardly while talking and forgets the point under discussion is dodging and not at all sincere. You will also hear such words “my mother is ALMOST ready to go any day to meet with your parents; be patient for few more days; every thing will settle down”. He will give you ride in a borrowed car; a fancy taxi. Don’t go after these fake show-offs. If that person was so much rich, respectful and loved one of parents and liked by relatives, why he/she was not proposed for marriage. It is not true that “I do not like them, I don’t find any body among them to be my life partner”. These are not the essentials for the marriage. We should be honest to God, to ourselves. Try to escape before your are trapped.

An Urdu poetry verse: (excuse me for mistake in translation)
Vo parindah jissey parvaaz se fursat hi na thi
Ab tanha hai to dewaar pe a betha hai

(the bird who had not a free moment from his flight with other birds, is now left alone by all, has come back and is seen on “my house” wall)

Adulteration:
I believe all faiths have rejected “adulteration” be it in food products, in human relations or in measurement. There have been cases where an affair of a partner leaked out for a previous continuing affair or even having been married before: at that point you will hear such words “dear, I am sorry, I wanted to tell you several times but each time we were dragged away in sightseeing or tea-talks”. “That marriage was forced on me by my parents; she is illiterate, a village girl, cannot move in society. I was a girl who is educated and social”. That would be a blind turn; totally dark. Nobody would be able to remove odds. Who can put two swords in the same case!
Ask some one else, if I am correct. There are those who have a wife and children in their country, and “secretly” keep another wife in a third country and are living a happily here and there also.

We reject any adulteration in good stuff – isn’t it! How we compromise with adulteration in this pure relation in life. Pass on purity to siblings.

Some time the two flirting each and out of lust or fearing from a forced separation after a leak of their friendship, resort to a court marriage; with fake witnesses. Believe it or not they have disrespected themselves and downgraded their parents in relative and society; like they were poisoned to death by their own children. If you approach your parents asking for forgiveness and acceptance of your marriage; you cannot think of options with your wounded parents; they are died before their death and what dead man can do except to accept your proposal “with a hope for this to become a good arrangement”; “It would be as you can pull the dead man’s thumb, ink it and mark on the transfer of property form”.

It would have been advisable and advisable it is to bring your initial liking to the notice of your parents who would through their own sources get necessary information of each side to see if most of those findings are matching on both sides and arrange their marriage and save them going astray. Some odds and differences can be discussed and solved.

Take benefit of parents’ experience in life:
Our parents have gone through ups and down in life and gained experience. They are the best and nearest available guides to take advantage of. Talk to your mother, father about the problem you are confronted with or you foresee a hurdle. I am sure they will give you a better solution. Follow it. Don’t think (maybe; maybe not) about it’s being workable. A shaky step can mislead you and throw you at a distant place. Take it for sure, this is the first and foremost living source of good advice. Speak out to them your problem, your fears, whatever they are.

Society (Zamana “in urdu”) is also a good teacher: You learn a lot about living a good life in school where you meet with good and bad children. Their behaviors will show you different between the two. Teachers, who have dealt with students from complex communities, can also give an advice on social problems. When you are confused and unable to take a decision, society will roll you left and right to adjust yourself.

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