Rules set by family head of the house

Rules set by family head of the house are not necessarily written.

Rules are rules.

There are certain rules set for every house to be followed and respected by the residents as well as guests.

Guests should be made aware of these rules to avoid later embarrassment.

When a bride comes to the in-laws’ house, Rules should also be explained to her verbally as for the meal timings and cooking turns; sleep and wake-up timings, dress code etc. The new member picks up some activities by observation. We expect the new comer to adjust to the environment while the residents should also be accommodative and tolerant during the adjustment period. We should let the things take their time to shape up and not to put undue pressure. An innocent confrontation can create misunderstanding and misunderstanding breeds another misunderstanding.

We should not over expect from each other. We should be cooperative. We should not backbite. We should be in search of other’s weakness and secrecy. Don’t get trapped by any outsider to share house happenings and environmental. This house is our base and we should not try to get it damaged.

When girls of the house are married and go to their in-laws, they must follow rules of that house as we expect the incoming bride to follow our rules.

The sons of the house when grown up and become aware of several activities and fashions unheard off before, should talk to father and mother if there is a place for such things to be exercised in the house. There may be some that could be allowed while the others may not be encouraged to keep the environment neat and clean. When boys make their own families they can then induct those activities there.

We had a guest relative who stayed overnight and in the morning he pushed open our bedroom. We were surprised to see someone "rude" intruded without knocking and asking for permission.

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