Building Confidence, Trust and Dependence

I will speak simple what I felt to create confidence, trust and dependence among families, friends, employers and employees:

At a time in the past, Open job ads in Punjabi language used to appear like:

“Lori da, ik, dang tapaoo, kharkaoo bajaoo, te, keechi meechi jaanda ….”
Translated word by word:
“Looking for, one, temporary, typist, and, stenographer…..”

It was very much clear to the audience that the job was “TEMPORARY ”.

Talking to one individual or for that matter to the whole of community via media, we should be so much clear and confident in ourselves about what we are putting forward or talking about and be able to create a counter confidence in the addressee also as to what he should expect. This is what all of us should be – confident, trustworthy and responsible. When our words and mind are not in agreement on something and we force out what we want to say, that disagreement shows up on our face and the addressee has also been given ability to judge it. Considering Sun and our body; in place of Mind and Heart, it’s like; when sun is right straight over our head, our shadow in whole is on our body alone; and when sun is diagonal; our shadow is seen away from our body.

When I see in myself, my own family, family friends, friends, neighbors, and relatives; in-laws have been in company for years, I do not feel we are easy with each other and have been able to create Confidence, Trust or Reliance and Dependency. We have a “shaken faith” in each other. Individually, each of us, feel that our mind is surrounded by a fear complex. Some time it clicks in my mind – “blood is thicker than water” – but this has jumped and stands the opposite side. Frankly, the family members among themselves; not to speak of those away, have doubt in each other and are not prepared to discuss; in fear of a leak, disobedience and rudeness or being rejected, or denied. We should put our mind and heart together, play no hide and seek, and think always positive. Create harmony as soon as possible. I feel if we are living with two opposite mindsets at the same time, do no more longing (desire) for a real affection and trust.

Together we can win hearts and solve problems. One straw is very weak, a bunch of straws is strong.

THROUGH THIS WRITING, I SINCERELY SEEK YOUR PRAYERS AND SUGGESTIONS TO REPAIR OUR TRUST AND CONFIDENCE WITH EACH OTHER.

Regards,
sheikhmsarwar@gmail.com